Although many of us may not want to admit it, survival is the first rule of all creation. Taking care of ourselves is as important to our survival as it is to care for others, particularly during the coronavirus pandemic.
Stress and anxieties propelled by what we view on social media, stream online or listen to on podcasts can skew our reality and perceptions. This perception can leave us with invalidated emotions and leave many of us to function in a hypersensitive state in our response to the world around us. It may even result in coping mechanisms that rob us of basic life values such as enjoyment, fulfillment and happiness in our lives.
Our self-care has to incorporate healthy coping mechanisms, especially living in the day to day of the difficulties of living while surviving the pandemic, political unrest and societal violence towards minorities.
It is important to note that not everything that feels good is self-care. We can all be tempted to use unhealthy coping mechanisms like drugs, alcohol, emotional over-eating and risk-taking. These self-destructive activities help us to regulate challenging emotions, but the relief is temporary.
The difference between unhealthy coping mechanisms and self-care activities is that the latter is an uncontroversial good for you. When practiced correctly, self-care has long-term benefits for the mind, the body or both.
People often think about wellness in terms of physical health (nutrition, exercise, weight management, etc.), but it is so much more. Wellness is a holistic integration of physical, mental and spiritual well-being, fueling the body, engaging the mind and nurturing the spirit. Although it always includes striving for health, it’s more about living life; it is a lifestyle and a personalized approach to living life in a designed way that adapts to an environment. It allows you to become the best kind of person that your potentials, circumstances and fate will allow.
Wellness necessitates good self-stewardship, both for ourselves and for those we care about and who care about us. For those in the helping professions, wellness is a professional as well as personal responsibility. In order to ensure high-quality patient and client services, workers have an ethical obligation to attend to their own health and well-being. Sufficient self-care prevents us from harming those we serve, and according to Green Cross Standards of Self Care Guidelines, no situation or person can justify neglecting it.
Wellness encompasses eight mutually interdependent dimensions: physical, intellectual, emotional, social, spiritual, vocational, financial and environmental. Attention must be given to all the dimensions because neglect of any one over time will adversely affect the others, and ultimately one’s health, well-being and quality of life. They do not, however, have to be equally balanced. We should aim, instead, to strive for a “personal harmony” that feels most authentic to us. We naturally have our own priorities, approaches and aspirations, including our own views of what it means to live life fully.
Dimensions of wellness and making the right choices for health and well-being can be challenging. Although we know what is good for us and how we can do — and be — better, we may not act on it, or if we do, we may, in due course, slide back to familiar ways. Human behavior — what we do, how we do it, and whether we will succeed — is influenced by many factors, two of which are of particular relevance when it comes to wellness: self-regulation and habits.
Self-regulation is central to effective human functioning. It is our ability to direct our behavior and control our impulses so that we meet certain standards, achieve certain goals, or reach certain ideals. It allows us to act in our short- and long-term best interests, consistent with our deepest values. There’s just one limitation: self-regulation requires mental energy, and the brain is always looking for ways to conserve energy (i.e., save effort).
Habits, in contrast, require very little energy. As Duhigg, author of “The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business” says, “Any behavior that can be reduced to a routine is one less behavior that we must spend time and energy consciously thinking about and deciding upon.” With the cognitive economy and performance efficiency of habit, the brain can conserve self-regulatory strength to focus on the important decisions in life and free us to engage in thoughtful activities, such as reflecting on the past and planning for the future.
Habits are powerful. With about 40 percent of our everyday behavior repeated in the form of habits, they shape our very existence, and ultimately, our future. Habits, in fact, are key to wellness. For better or worse, habits very much influence health, well-being and quality of life. If you are striving to improve these, you need to think about habits because if you change your habits for the better, you change your life for the better.
Technically, a habit is a behavior that is recurrent, is cued by a specific context, often happens without much awareness or conscious intent, and is acquired through frequent repetition. It can be regarded as a formula (or habit loop) that the brain automatically follows: When I see cue, I will do routine in order to get a reward. Studies indicate that once formed, habits become encoded in brain structures and can never truly be eradicated — only replaced with stronger habits. That’s why they are so difficult to change.
It’s not just a matter of will-power (i.e., self-regulation); it’s a matter of rewiring the brain. To change a habit, you need to create new routines: Keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine.
Inserting new routines is not easy. Despite knowing what’s good for us and best intentions, habits tend to keep us doing what we always do. They are difficult to change — any of us can attest to this. But we can maximize the probabilities for success with 2 essentials: self-awareness and strategies. Both are indispensable to successful habit formation.
Change becomes much more achievable if you pay attention to who you are and insert routines that take advantage of your strengths, tendencies, and aptitudes. With self-awareness, you can cultivate the habits that work for you. Consider, for instance, differences in circadian rhythms, as in how we sleep. Circadian rhythms reflect our natural tendencies for sleeping and waking and influence our energy and productivity at different times in the day. The odds of success to improve your fitness won’t increase if, for example, you decide to rise an hour earlier to exercise each day when you happen to be a night owl rather than an early morning riser/lark. Self-awareness includes knowledge about other aspects of self as well, such as whether you are a marathoner, sprinter, or procrastinator; under- or over-buyer; simplicity or abundance lover; finisher or opener; and familiarity or novelty lover. It also includes whether you are promotion- or prevention-focused, and whether you like taking small or big steps.
Change also becomes more achievable if you choose strategies that enhance your chance for success. Such strategies include monitoring; scheduling; investing in systems of accountability; abstaining; increasing or decreasing convenience; planning safeguards; detecting rationalizations and false assumptions; using distractions, rewards, and treats; pairing activities; and beginning with habits that directly strengthen self-control. Most successful habit change requires the coordination of multiple strategies to establish a single new behavior and new habits, on average, take 66 days to form, so the more strategies used, the better.
Change your habits, change your life
Sometimes change takes a long time. Sometimes it requires repeated experiments and failures. But for ongoing betterment, the attempts are unquestionably worthwhile and one success often leads to another. When thinking about habits, wellness and the health, well-being, and quality of life to which you aspire, consider the following: Are you going to accept yourself or expect more from yourself? Are you going to embrace the present or consider the future?” and “Are you going to care about yourself or overlook yourself?
Wellness is a dynamic, ever-changing, fluctuating process. It is a lifestyle, a personalized approach to living life in a way that allows you to become the best kind of person that your potentials, circumstances, and fate will allow.
The past is history; the present and future lie in the choices you make today. Don’t worry about getting it perfect; just get it going, and become the best kind of person you can be.
The preceding was written by Christina Lake of Frederiksted Health Care Inc.